Me, Myself and I

I want to start out by thanking everyone who has taken out the time to read my blog and for the brave soul who has chosen to follow me throughout this blogging journey. But today I am blogging to set the record straight. This is not a hating blog towards men. This is a vehicle/tool that I'm going to use to document my trials, triumphs and tribulations as a single mom. This blog is about Me, Myself and I; the Diary of a Single Mama. The first blog was simply an introduction; a little background about why I'm a single parent (kinda thought that was important guys). Since posting on yesterday I've received a ton of positive feedback from both men and women, but I have to admit that I did ruffle the feathers of a few men who decided to share their thoughts; stating that women need to be honest and have a balanced dialog with men. So here is the discussion that I had the pleasure of engaging in with a few of the fellas. Please take a look and you are more than welcomed to share your thoughts too.

1. You need to post a new picture. The one of you holding a drink looks like you're a party girl instead of a struggling single mother.

My response: Just because I'm struggling doesn't mean that I need to look the part. I am happy and that picture summed me up perfectly. Fierce, Fabulous and doing the damn thing!

2. You are angry.

My response: I use to be angry and I still get upset when someone takes their problems with me out on my kids. But I'm not angry any more, it simply takes up too much of my time and energy; two very important things that my kids need from me. No...I made a decision/choice to be happy.

3. Some baby moms throw up road blocks so dads /can't spend any time with their kids. There comes a time when a kid needs their dad.

My response: I can't speak for all baby mama's, but yes, some of them do have some issues/drama. They haven't let go of the past or resolved all of their issues and they are blaming the dad's for their situations and are using the kids to punish them. Do I want my children to have a healthy relationship with their dad, yes. But what men need to realize is that a woman can't make a grown ass man accept responsibility and be a father to his children. That's something he has to be willing to do on his own. All we can do right now is be the BEST mother's that we can be to our children and to make sure that they are healthy both physically, spiritually and most of all emotionally. Unfortunately all women haven't reached that level of maturity and their mentality is still stuck on stupid and some men are using that B.S. as a reason to run from their responsibilities. Man up and stop blaming us!

4. I bet mothers use child support money to eat out daily instead of brown bagging it, and I'm sure a bunch of hair and nail appointments aren't being cancelled. And I know the purchase of designer handbags hasn't decreased either.

My response: Instead of giving us the money just do what your suppose to do like pay tuition, buy them shoes, clothes, school supplies, pay sport fees, school fees, feed them, get their hair cut/done, take them to the movies, to birthday parties, reward them for doing well in school, feed them (hey, they eat 24/7), get them to practice, buy treats for their class parties, replace PE uniforms, take care of insurance co-pays and purchase medicine when their sick. Wow...if we're spending all of the child support money on these things I don't think we'll have enough to take them to McDonalds let alone treat ourselves to dinner at a fancy place. And get our hair and nails done or purchase that $300 Coach bag, puh-lease! And come to think of it...the courts said that some of us have to come up with 65% of the funds that are necessary for our children to survive because some of us actually make more money than the father so when you think about it...daddy's half ain't even covering everything that they need anyway:)

5. I know guys who have (wrongly) said they are doing the minimum because they are just praying for 18 years to pass by quickly.

My response: Who are they really hurting; their so called annoying baby mama or their precious kids? and BTW...mama's are praying for those 18 years to hurry the hell up too:)

Until tomorrow....